Who could have guessed that after a thrilling emotional roller coaster ride last week, ‘Private Practice’ would still have more engaging stories to tell? But with only a few episodes remaining in this season, the series seems to be on turbo.
… and the list goes on. The problem occurs when these underlying issues are never addressed. And what happens within you when issues are not addressed? Anxiety, frustration and ultimately anger.
People seek marriage help when they can no longer understand their partner and are overwhelmed with how much the disagreement have escalated. The third person listens and interacts with them. He tries to shed light to what is really happening.
In our conversations I asked about him saying “No” to people. This was a very difficult thing for him to do in an intimate relationship, there was a lot of guilt associated with saying no. So homework for that week as saying no, in a respectful way.
What it does not mean is to be aggressive. There’s a big difference here. To be assertive means to assert oneself positively with convincing confidence.
We need to hear this in the Church of Jesus Christ today. We need to make sure that we have someone over us – that we have a covering – someone whom we can trust and confide in with confidence – someone who will hear and shepherd and offer advice or Ross Jeffries or correction if necessary. The very modern term is ‘coaching’. Isn’t it interesting that people will go to someone when a new label is used? This is an old basic principle found in the Word of God.
The gambler’s career is jeopardised, and relationships with family and friends becomes eroded as his obsession with gambling escalates. He feels a tremendous amount of shame and guilt after gambling the grocery money yet again and he will consider, or even attempt, suicide because he feels so helpless and useless.
Over time the trust between the client and counsellor can deepen and the client can open up more and more. As a result really distressing feelings can be worked through and accepted. The client may change the way they think and feel about themselves. They may come to decisions about what they want or need to do. They may change the way they behave in certain situations. Eventually this can build to them approaching life in a way which means they feel better about themselves, more accepting of their feelings and better able to approach their difficulties. At this point they may decide that they no longer need the help of the counsellor and the counselling may come to an end.